First I want to start off by saying, don’t be embarrassed or ashamed of your singleness, read this with confidence!
Let me just be real, I have struggled with this topic for years. I would hide the fact that I was single, and I would become defensive if anyone asked if I was dating someone. I hated running into people I hadn’t seen in awhile, because I knew they would ask the same question everyone does, “Are you dating anyone?” The answer was no, but I didn’t ever want to talk about it. I began to question why it is that I didn’t like talking about my singleness, and I realized something. Whenever anyone would ask me, and my answer was no, they would immediately feel sorry for me and shoot me a, “don’t worry, you’ll find somebody.” I didn’t like it when they would say that. I know, what else could they say? They were trying to be encouraging after they had just told me all about their new, handsome, Jesus loving boyfriend, or husband. I get it, and I love that they tried. I always looked at my friends and their boyfriends, and was constantly praying for that to be me too. No one ever looked at being single as special, or cool, and no one would ask me about my singleness. Instead, they would ask me if I was interested in anyone or if anyone was interested in me. Once I had a name, they would draw themselves in to hear about a potential suitor. I started to feel special if I had someone to talk about, because that is what they wanted to hear. But feeling special because of my singleness? Yeah, that didn’t happen, until last year.
Last year, March 30, 2016, God called me to do something. He called me to be intentionally single. This date is so special to me, which is why I started this blog on March 30, 2017. This ends my full year of intentional singleness. In the beginning of my year, I was so pumped, and I was so excited to do it. I surrendered everything over to God, and allowed him to direct my steps. He blessed me right away. Shortly after I started, God called me to start a bible study for women. We would all meet Saturday mornings, and would talk about Jesus, and what was going on in our lives. It was an amazing time of fellowship, and God did some cool stuff. I absolutely loved being apart of it and meeting with women who wanted to grow deeper in their relationship with Jesus. After that, God blessed me with an acceptance to Biola University, a writer’s position for a magazine called She Leads Daily, and a missions trip to Myanmar, in December. This year has just been the craziest, most rewarding, Jesus pursuing year. But, it has come with hardship as well. I have sat on my bed countless times over the past year and cried. I was so focused on what I wanted God to do, more than on what he was already doing. I didn't have a boyfriend, or any potential, and I was struggling to see that as a blessing. Towards the end of the year, I started to become worried of my future. I was no longer completely focusing on Jesus; instead I was focussing on circumstances. But once I remembered why I started my year of singleness, it brought me back to a place of comfort. God knows what he is doing. I CAN be excited for my friends who are in relationships and celebrate what God is doing for them in that season. And I can rejoice in the season of life that I am in. God has blessed me so much this year, and I can't even begin to explain my excitement and gratitude. So yes, this year has been tough, BUT it has been the best year of my life so far and I have been surrounded by the greatest people, who have shown me so much love.
So, I want to encourage you, and remind you that God is always at work. Whether you have been single for a month, or for 10 years; God has a plan. God does great things when we yield to him and pursue him fully. Wherever you are in your timeline of singleness, and however you are feeling about it right now, I just want to let you know that it can be such a beautiful thing and a beautiful season of life. God knows what he is doing and trying to make everything happen on your own is not only extremely difficult, but it is not as rewarding. God always has something better in mind. Let God lead you in your singleness and let him speak to you during this precious time. Lean on him, and put your hope in him. I am telling you, there is a greater outcome than you could have ever imagined.
Matthew 6:33-34 “But first and most importantly seek (aim at, strive after) His kingdom and His righteousness [His way of doing and being right—the attitude and character of God], and all these things will be given to you also. So do not worry about tomorrow; for tomorrow will worry about itself. Each day has enough trouble of its own.”
Amplified Bible (AMP)
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Ephesians 3:20 “Now to Him who is able to [carry out His purpose and] do superabundantly more than all that we dare ask or think [infinitely beyond our greatest prayers, hopes, or dreams], according to His power that is at work within us.”