THE GIFT OF A COMPLIMENT

Over my winter vacation, I went to a very nice restaurant in LA, that forgot the name of. I went with a few of my friends and while we were there, we were served by a very very attractive blonde man. His name was Jace. He was very kind, and funny, and handsome. At the end of the dinner, I felt prompted to tell him how attractive I thought he was. This may not seem like a big deal to you, but I never do that sort of thing. My whole life, I have always been afraid to tell men they are attractive, because I was afraid they would think I wasn’t and that it would be awkward after. I never wanted to feel embarrassed, or rejected, so I would just hold back how I really felt.  

However, I have learned something in my life. People love compliments. Some people like them more than others, and really take them to heart. I know from receiving them, that it makes you feel good and singled out and noticed. I want to do this more so that others can experience the joy of a compliment.  So, at the end of dinner, I told Jace, “I just want to tell you that you are very handsome, I’m sure you get it all the time, but I just wanted to let you know you are.” He was so kind and real and replied with “thank you so much, that seriously means so much to me. I greatly appreciate that. Thank you.” He was so genuine in his response and seemed to be very humble. I felt very confident, not because I am so great, but because I had the courage to say exactly what I wanted to, without worrying about myself and my feelings. I didn’t say he was handsome, in order to receive a compliment in return, but rather to tell him what I thought of him and pay him a compliment. I overcame a fear of mine. I didn’t want to walk away that night regretting having not said anything. I found that seeing someone else’s joy from a simple compliment, brought me so much joy of my own. It does something not only for the person, but I believe it does something for the complimenter as well.

How many times do we see beautiful people, amazing personality traits, cute outfits, great hair, or whatever, and leave a compliment unsaid? Don’t say a compliment in order to receive one, and don’t always answer a compliment that has been given to you with a compliment back. It is always good to compliment, but only if you truly mean it. Maybe it is hard for you to give one because you have a hard time accepting them. I think we have a hard time accepting them, because we don’t feel comfortable having someone make a deal out of us. But today, try and  pay a true, genuine, real compliment to someone, without having the agenda of receiving one. And if you receive one, give a genuine thank you and let that compliment sink in. Start seeing yourself as the person God sees you as. So many times we can sit in condemnation, or guilt, shame, or disappointment, and we disregard God’s thoughts about us. Let your creator share with you the things he loves about you, and let those things begin to change your perspective on yourself. I will be sharing more on this topic, because I feel insecurity is something people of all ages deal with. I hope you have a great day, and don’t forget to pay a compliment to someone today!

TruthTaylor Carr